Mothers Day 2025
If you were not sure how you are doing as a mother, I just want to assure you that you are simply amazing. Happy Mother's Day 2025


I grew up watching my mother work from home, running her own business by weaving smock fabrics. As a stay-at-home mother, she ensured that we always had freshly cooked lunches waiting for us when we returned from school. The house was consistently clean, and she made certain that our school uniforms were washed, providing us with fresh attire each day. However, this did not mean we were exempt from chores; everyone in the household, whether a biological child or not, had assigned responsibilities. For instance, I was responsible for sweeping the house each morning before school, and on weekends, I washed the clothes I wore at home. My mother took care of my uniforms and other essential clothes until I was old enough to wash them myself. While she cooked, she would often send me to get ingredients, pound some of them, and assist with various small tasks.
Seeing how my mother was available and managed our home shaped my expectations for raising my own children someday when I start a family. Of course, she was not perfect—no one is. I observed certain gaps in her style of motherhood that I knew I did not want to replicate with my own children when I have them.

For instance, I disliked it whenever she punished me with a cane, and I resolved never to use a cane on my own children. As a result, I did not have the kind of relationship that allowed me to easily confide in my mother about personal matters, such as boyfriend drama. I still struggle to discuss certain issues with her. I decided that this was not the kind of relationship I wanted for my own children. While I am not a perfectionist—though some people believe I am—I always strive to do things in a specific way. From the moment I realized I was not as close to my mother as I desired, I understood how I wanted to raise my own children. When I heard someone say that our mothers crawled so that we, their daughters, could walk and run, I wholeheartedly agreed. I am grateful to my mother for giving me the opportunity to become a better mother.
I have only been a mother for almost three years (I welcomed my baby in July 2022), but I believe I have always embodied the role of a mother throughout my life. As a firstborn in Ghana, I can confidently say that this experience is common among firstborns across Africa, as I often hear many of them express their frustrations about inheriting responsibilities for children they did not give birth to. My situation is no different; I have a younger brother, and I have always taken on the role of his second mother. Additionally, I have also babysat for cousins, nephews, and nieces who are younger than I am. Therefore, I can comfortably assert that I have been nurturing others for a significant portion of my life.
Discovering that I was pregnant in 2021 filled me with both joy and anxiety. I was thrilled at the prospect of having my own child, yet apprehensive about my ability to be a good mother.

I was initially afraid and uncertain about what my journey into motherhood would entail, as I held certain expectations and strong beliefs about how it should be. Many people who engaged with the parenting, motherhood, and childcare content I used to create perceive me as a perfect mother who has everything under control. They see the efforts I put into caring for my baby and the topics I discuss and share with my social media community. However, this has not always been the case; I did not wake up one day with all the knowledge I possess now. I made conscious efforts to learn—I read extensively, conducted research, and, most importantly, asked questions. I reached out to individuals with experience, seeking their practical insights. This was crucial for me, as much of the information available was either too technical or not applicable to my specific environment.
Being a mother in today’s global and modern world presents a unique set of challenges. You may find yourself in a family where members are separated due to work or school commitments, and one parent—usually the mother—must manage a full-time job, household responsibilities, and the care of the children. Meanwhile, being a full-time mother is, in itself, a demanding full-time job, often without the option for leave or breaks. I once expressed a wish that motherhood came with a pause button, allowing mothers to take a moment to rest when they are tired and then resume from where they left off.

Unfortunately, there is no pause button in life, so we must continually push forward, often until we reach a breaking point. Some mothers even claim they are taking a break or enjoying a vacation, yet they spend the entire time on the phone, ensuring their children are comfortable in their absence. How can that truly be considered a vacation? Moreover, whenever we attempt to prioritize our own needs, feelings of guilt as a mother often creep in.
On the occasion of Mother’s Day, I want to remind all the mothers out there that if you are feeling overwhelmed and uncertain about your performance as a mother, you are doing perfectly. Mother’s Day is more than just a date on the calendar; it serves as a beautiful reminder of the silent sacrifices, everyday courage, and boundless love that mothers invest in our lives, often without expecting anything in return.

From late-night lullabies to pep talks before significant decisions, from warm meals to gentle admonishments that helped shape our values, I believe that mothers are the quiet architects of our strength. In an era where the world continues to evolve with its challenges and changes, one thing remains constant: the love of a mother. Whether biological, adoptive, step, or spiritual, every woman who has nurtured, protected, and guided another deserves to be celebrated. Today, we express our gratitude for being our safe haven, for believing in us even when we doubted ourselves, and for loving us unconditionally.
To the mothers whose arms ache with emptiness, especially those who have lost their little ones at or before birth, we see you. Your motherhood is genuine, and your love is eternal. The bond you shared with your child began long before their arrival and will never be broken, no matter how brief their time in this world. Today, we honor your silent strength, profound love, and enduring courage. You are a mother, and you always will be. Grief is the price we pay for love.

And you loved deeply. Let us honor the mothers who are with us, remember those who are not, and uplift those who nurture in quiet, unseen ways. Remember that you are not just a person; you are a life-giver, a source of comfort, strength, and unshakable love. Happy Mother’s Day 2025 to those we celebrate, those we remember, and those we hold close in our hearts. CHEERS!!!
Wonderful piece as always
thank you Ron